One of my new favorite TED Talks videos. Want to be happier and healthier? Enhance the quality of your relationships. It’ll pay off!
Yes, it’s Easter but that doesn’t mean you can’t spare some time for self-improvement! Below is a TED Talks video about time management and a different perspective on procrastination. Enjoy!
Here’s a different article for you. Studies have shown those who have had childhood abuse are most likely to be obese as they grow older and as an adult. Are you surprised? Think about the emotional toll the abuse has taken on a person. Feel free to share this article!
NPR introduces a new way to help reduce those unhealthy cravings! This just might work for my DQ ice cream. I hope they do make that phone app.
Just some tips from PsychCentral on assertiveness. Enjoy!
This post is very overdue! A few months ago I visited Ashlee Secord, MA, LMFT from Thrive Therapy in Burnsville, Minnesota. Ashlee was referred to me from a networking friend. I have been attempting to contact professional women within the Twin Cities Area to seek advice and resources as I start my LLC and my friend referred Ashlee because he thought she would be a perfect fit- was she ever! After my perspective-changing discussion with Ashlee, I wanted to write a huge post about my experience with her after only a few hours. I had a word document draft written up, wrote her a card letting her know I will be writing a post about our meeting…anndd well, it’s now 2 months later and instead of looking at the word document I have drafted up or thinking what I could write I will just do what Ashlee repeatedly told me at our meeting, to “just do it.”
Ashlee is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) who not only provides individual/group counseling services, but also does workshops on weight-loss, communication and women’s strength, has an Ebook called, “Confident Women” and is an influential speaker. (More to come, I’m sure!)
I met Ashlee at her office while she was wearing her comfortable workout clothes. I noticed immediately how confident she was (is). I reviewed her website before we met and figured she would be very easy to talk to (especially after I read some of her educational and entertaining blog posts) but our meeting was even more informal than expected. The whole hour (plus) I was there, it was like having a laid back conversation with a friend.
I could write about the questions I asked about her business start-up and balancing work & personal life but that can mostly be found on her website. What the website doesn’t show you is how the Thrive Therapy title could not have been a better fit for this woman. She was glowing with passion as she told me all her plans for her business, her hobbies, passion for people, but most importantly (and noticeably) self-care. She mentioned numerous times how important it is to take care of ourselves, and as healthcare professionals practice what we preach.
She was very open & honest about herself and her business. She told me about her successes, but also told me about some of her challenges (e.g. a presentation that once did not go so well). But it was clear she took those challenges, which are typically seen as a negative things, as something positive that has helped her learn & grow to be the successful professional she is today. Why don’t more people accept challenges like this?
After asking her a few times about her business and her Ebook preparation and planning, she repeatedly said, “You just do it”. I know I get caught up in wanting to do things the “right way” and thinking about it too much that it just doesn’t get done. When it came to her Ebook she said she just wrote and wrote. And while networking she goes as herself and no one else. What resonated with me after that meeting was not only the “just do it” motto (move over Nike!) that she clearly practices, but how her passion made her very personable and how being open & transparent can establish trust within your first meeting with someone. No one wonder why she has so many clients 🙂
I’m going to go now. Get things done. Thrive like Ashlee. You know, do things!
Thanks for reading and thank you again Ashlee.
I was working on one of my typical posts with all the links I’ve collected from this week and couldn’t help but notice how many were about mental health. I figured it’d be better to write an individual post about it.
So, mental health. How do you define it? Do you know what it is? There is a terrible stigma in our country when it comes to mental health. If someone is depressed it’s like they have a communicable disease and you can’t talk to them, but people are more than happy to talk about them. People seem to distance themselves away from those with mental illnesses but, really, we should be moving TOWARDS them. Helping them. Asking them if they need anything. Asking them how the hell they are doing. It amazes me how close-minded people can be about something that can be helped, can be improved, with just a simple acknowledgement.
My little outburst started this morning when I was reading NPR’s article on MIT Trying to Relieve Student Pressure. Did you know they have had 6 suicides in the last 14 months? Or have had higher than the national average suicide rate for the last 2 years? If you read the comments below (you should always read the comments!) they mentioned how a professor committed suicide in the last year. This doesn’t seem to be just an MIT problem, but a problem within our culture. As noted in the comments, a “sink or swim” attitude within the academic system (and as our country as a whole really) has created many, many mental health issues which unfortunately can lead to suicidal behavior.
The Journal of the American Heart Association (JAHA) published a study correlating depression & strokes titled, “Changes in Depressive Symptoms and Incidence of First Stroke Among Middle-Aged and Older US Adults” Linked is the abstract version, you can see the full text here. Did you hear about this? What do you think?
On a positive note, many Minnesota employers have collaborated efforts & ideas to create the Make it Okay Campaign that works towards acknowledging & educating the population about mental health. The goal is to reduce the stigma of mental illnesses and make it okay to talk about them. They are having an ambassador training in a few weeks which I look forward to attending. I’m excited to work with my co-workers to kick this campaign off within the community we I work in. I will follow up more after the training.
If you think you may be suffering from a mental illness (or even experiencing similar symptoms of one) please GET HELP. Reach out to your friends & family, talk to your school counselors, talk to your Employee Assistance Program (EAP) at work. Talk to anyone! There are free resources out there and there are plenty of people that want to help.
Thanks for reading. Feel free to let me know how YOU are helping prevent the stigma against mental illnesses!
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